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The Anti Father’s Day Gift Guide

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As Father’s Day was approaching, I started thinking about what I should write. 

I could do a cute craft with the kids (Lord have mercy, I get anxiety just thinking about that). 

Or, I could write a gift guide. 

Since I wrote an Anti Mother’s Day Gift Guide for Mother’s Day, it only seemed fair to do the same for Father’s Day.  I’m not a father, so I have no clue what they want. 

I’ve been bugging my husband to write a guest post for some time now, so this was the perfect opportunity. 

My dear friends here is the Anti Father’s Day Gift Guide, by my darling husband, and father to one rambunctious threenager, and two sweet (yet needy) 16-month-old twin girls. 

It’s not light, fluffy, and full of the charming wit that you’re used to from my posts, but it packs an important message.

What dads really need for Father's Day, by a dad to twins + 1. #FathersDay #twindad #parenting #fatherhood #daddy #dadlife #toddlerdad

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Do Father’s Really Need More Stuff?

Growing up in America in the 90’s, I  witnessed the exponential growth of technology in the 2000’s

It’s oh-so-easy to fall into the trap of needing the newest thing and wanting more

Do these feelings ever go away, or are they just curbed for a minute, until the desire rears its ugly head and we want more again? 

This Father’s Day, I am encouraged to look beyond material things that satisfy for a short while, to something that will make an impact forever.

Right now, in the United States there is an estimated 25 million youth growing up fatherless.

Let that sink in. 

25 million. 

This epidemic has a profound impact on not just young boys, but maybe significantly more young girls.  This epidemic is shaping our culture. 

Children from fatherless homes are more likely to drop out of school, live in poverty, commit suicide, join gangs, experiment in sexual activity, abuse drugs, and alcohol, struggle with depression, the list goes on. 

These patterns don’t just pertain to someone who has never met their father but any definition of an absent father which could include incarceration, disinterest, abuse, etc.

Read another guest post from my husband… To the Soon to be Twin Dad

What We Really Need

There is a generation of men and women crying out for positive fatherly role models.  

I am a 30-something father, parenting 3 small children while balancing a career and doing my best to love my wife. 

I need a role model too; this junk is hard! I need someone who done this before to walk alongside me and provide wisdom. 

How much more do our moldable, impressionable youth need this?

Someone to show them, fatherly love, to teach them, to protect them, someone they can turn to in tough times.  What young fathers really need is to see great examples of fathering. 

We need to see that it is an important job, not to be taken lightly.  We need to be shown how to put our families first and celebrate being father’s, instead of just getting by.

If the thought of young boys and girls growing up void of a father figure tears at your heart strings, do them a favor and act.  Start with where you have excess and go from there. 

If you have extra time, take a few hours a week or month to change someone’s life forever.  If you are blessed financially, give out of the abundance of your finances to enable someone else to mentor or provide an organization with additional funds. 

I promise you it will be so rewarding to you and them that you will stop acting only out of excess.

Do you know a teacher, coach, or mentor that has influenced the life of someone you know? They may not be a father or the child’s father but their role in the child’s life is important.

Be sure to let them know how much you appreciate them.

Take Action This Father’s Day

These books have helped shape my understanding of the world and my longing as a man. Consider them as a gift that will stir something in the receiver’s soul to action.

Father Fiction: Chapters for a Fatherless Generation by Donald Miller

Wild at Heart by John Eldridge

Fields of the Fatherless by Tom Davis

The Fatherless Daughter Project by Denna Babul

Below is just a sample of compiled resources that are simple ways to get involved and change your life and someone’s elses that far outlasts a single day.

Become a mentor

Sponsor a child

*Facts in post are statistical resources taken from Fatherhood Factor and

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Belle Coriolan

Saturday 10th of June 2017

Wow, your article left me speechless. My Husband and I just had our first Daughter and we talk the role of a Father all the time. Thank you. Great book selection, "Wild at Heart," is one of my favorites.

Caitlin @Rogers Party of 5

Saturday 10th of June 2017

Belle, thank you for reading and your kind words. I'm so happy that this post resonated with you!

Amber Nible

Friday 9th of June 2017

You are so right the role of a father or father figure is indescribable. This is why I am irritated with our court system. Still to this day (in the state I live in) they still do not see the value gathers have in the lives of their children and they still give majority time to mom even if they live five minutes from each other and the father wants 50/50. There are some great fathers out there that aren't given the chance to be the father they want to be. It would be awesome for men to volunteer their time as you said but it would also be awesome for the the courts to open their eyes.

Caitlin @Rogers Party of 5

Saturday 10th of June 2017

This is an excellent point, Amber!!!! It's really sad. I think if a father is willing and able to be involved in the child's life, then it should be allowed. At least supervised visits, if there is a concern for safety, so the children at least know he is trying!

Trendle Ellwood

Friday 9th of June 2017

This brought tears to my eyes. I long for the real men to please stand up! Thank you Ben for your young wisdom.

Caitlin @Rogers Party of 5

Saturday 10th of June 2017

Thanks for reading and for your kind words and support :)


Friday 9th of June 2017

It's so nice to read a father's perspective and bring light to such a startling fact. Sending this to my hubby to read too!

Caitlin @Rogers Party of 5

Saturday 10th of June 2017

Thanks for reading, Natalia! I was shocked at the facts, too. I knew it was an issue, but the sheer number is definitely startling.

Audria Allred Smith

Thursday 8th of June 2017

Love to finally hear some honest input on this! Thank you!

Caitlin @Rogers Party of 5

Saturday 10th of June 2017

Thanks for reading :)

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