I bet there’s not a single person that at some point during their twin pregnancy didn’t panic a bit. Not that you aren’t excited and thrilled that there are two babes… but… it’s TWO BABIES. It’s surprising and a little nervewracking. I remember driving home from our first ultrasound with this massive list of fears going through my head. It’s funny to think back to the early days of my twin pregnancy and realize that my two biggest fears (hospitalized bedrest and having premature babies) actually happened and that I overcame them. If you’re struggling with fears of a twin pregnancy, know that you are not alone and that you will get through it!
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Biggest Fears of My Twin Pregnancy
Will I Ever Sleep Again?
This was one thing I could NOT STOP THINKING ABOUT. Since it was my second pregnancy, I had been through the newborn days before. I knew firsthand how exhausting it is to have a newborn. Sleep deprivation is no joke! Getting a baby to sleep through the night is soooo, SO much work…. how much more work would it be to get my twins to sleep through the night?
Honestly, this wasn’t that hard for us! The first several months were excruciating, but thanks to the book Babywise we were able to get our twins on a great schedule and it got them sleeping 12 hours at night by 14 weeks.
You can read the full details of how we got our twins to sleep through the night in this post and how we got our twins on a schedule in this post.
How Big Am I Going to Get?
Honestly, I didn’t get that big, and I was kind of sad about it. I ended up going into labor at 31 weeks, 6 days after two weeks of hospitalized bedrest. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I definitely had a big belly! But I actually gained less weight during my twin pregnancy than my singleton pregnancy. My bump was about the same size at the end of both pregnancies, which makes sense since I had the babies 8-weeks prematurely. I see some twin bumps that are just so gorgeously huge and it’s so amazing what the body can do! I feel a little bit gypped that I didn’t get to experience that.
How Will We Handle the Costs of Two Babies?
Thankfully, we never had to worry about daycare expenses. PHEW. I have no advice for you there! But everything else wasn’t nearly as expensive as I thought it would be. I buy a lot of things second hand and splurge on items that I know we will have long-term. My children wear second-hand clothes, especially play clothes that they ruin anyways. We do have a budget that we stick to because, with a family of five, things add up!
What If I End Up on Hospitalized Bedrest?
Honestly? It will be one of the hardest things you do in your life, especially if you already have children. I was so anxious about going on bedrest that I couldn’t even think about it. Even though a twin pregnancy is considered high-risk, I had absolutely zero complications, and so we didn’t plan for me going on bedrest. Make a plan. It can happen to you. Luckily, I was only working part-time, so the fact that I had to stop working completely wasn’t a huge hit to our finances. What was really hard was that we didn’t have a childcare plan set in motion for Theo, our two-year-old. Figure out how you will make things work financially if you have to stop working, or who will care for the children if you stay home with them.
This is a great, informative post on all of the risks of a twin pregnancy.
(Here are my tips for surviving hospitalized bedrest.)
Will I have My Twins Prematurely?
Another one of the hardest things you will do! Leaving your babies in NICU is so so so hard. If you’re a NICU mama, this post is for you, and this post is how your family and friends can help you. The medical staff in the NICU was so amazing and that helped. All I have to say is that I got through it and looking back it made me realize how strong and capable I am. That’s a good thing to feel when you’re embarking on the journey of becoming a twin mom!
Will I Be Able to Breastfeed?
I breastfed my singleton for almost 12 months and planned to breastfeed my twins as well. That didn’t work for me, and while I was sad for a short period, I was able to exclusively pump to provide them breast milk and save on the cost of formula. My friend Kim was able to breastfeed her twins, and she has a TON of great information on it. I encourage you to visit her blog and reach out for her if you have questions or need advice about breastfeeding twins.
Despite all of my fears coming to fruition, we made it! My 8-week preemie girls are now 2.5 and thriving. Having a twin mom community is SO important, so please reach out to me if you need support. You got this, twin mama!
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other helpful posts:
- Expecting Twins? How to Survive a Twin Pregnancy
- Tips for Making Life Easier With Newborn Twins
- A Letter to a New Twin Mom
- This One Tip Will Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night