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Life With Newborn Twins: A Survival Guide

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“I’m writing a post on tips for surviving life with newborn twins” I announced to my husband during dinner in between frantically dicing up food for our 13-month-old twin girls, who inhale food at an impossibly fast speed.

“Really.  Are you sure we survived??” he asked as he picked up a sippy cup that was tossed gleefully on the floor for the 87th time.

Ha. I admit there were times during the first year of having twins that I collapsed on the floor in utter defeat because the task given to me seemed impossibly hard.

Sometimes I see pictures from that year and I literally don’t remember the occasion. 

I’m like “What am I wearing, where are we, and whose hands are those holding the babies??”

Sleep deprivation can do a serious number on you… and the scary thing is that my babies have good sleep habits and are on a great sleep schedule.


Read –> how we got our twins to sleep through the night


During my twin pregnancy, I frequently searched Pinterest for tips for new parents on life with newborn twins.

Surely, someone who has been there and done that will have some good advice!

To my chagrin, most of the articles I read had universal advice for parents of twins such as “be patient with yourself” and “accept offers of help”

Now, I’m not saying that advice like that isn’t good advice.  It is absolutely true and has it has value.

However, if you’ve read much of my blog you know that I need things to be tangible and actionable.  So I’ve outlined some tips for you on how to survive life with newborn twins, and I’ve made it as actionable as possible.

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1. Newborn Twins Schedule

GET YOUR INFANT TWINS ON A SCHEDULE.

If one baby wakes up, wake up the other one.  I wrote an entire post on how I got my twin babies on a schedule.  Go read it for more tips.

We started our twins on a schedule as soon as they came home from the NICU at just about 3 weeks old.

I shared this post in a few Facebook groups for mothers of twins, and the overwhelming majority agreed with me that a schedule and routine is the #1 way to survive life with newborn twins.

There were, of course, a few twin moms who said that schedules didn’t work for them.  If you’re one of those moms, all the power to you!

But for us? It saved our sanity and it is the first step in establishing good baby sleep habits!

There is no BEST WAY to raise twins and when I’m sharing what worked for us, I’m simply sharing it because it worked for us and so it might help another twin mom out. I’m not trying to say that my way is the best way. I believe that however you choose to mother is the absolute best way for your family.

So. Take some deep breaths and know that you are doing a great job and meeting your babies’ needs in a way that nobody else can.

Related:

5 Tips to Establish a Schedule for Newborn Twins

What to do When Both Twins Are Crying

2. Sleep Training Twins

I know that sleep training is a controversial subject but BEFORE YOU WRITE OFF THIS POST, LISTEN TO JUST ON THING THAT I HAVE TO SAY: sleep training does NOT have to be leaving your baby to cry alone in their crib for hours.

In fact, I’ve sleep trained all four of my babies, and I have never once done that. Sleep training is simply helping your baby learn healthy sleep habits. Babies NEED sleep. I had two premature babies and I learned that sleep is VITAL for their growth and development.

So now that we’ve established that sleep training doesn’t have to include crying, where does that leave us?

Check out this post for different ways to sleep train. I’ve outlined ways from gentle, no cry methods, to the cry it out method (which by the way, if done correctly, is not hours upon hours of babies crying alone).

I’d suggest reading up on that post and figuring out your comfort level for sleep training and at least knowing your options.

Read this post for more in-depth details for how we got our twins to sleep through the night: The Ultimate Guide to Sleep Training Twins

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3. Find Parenting Shortcuts

It feels wrong to look for ‘shortcuts’ in parenting, but you get to break all the parenting rules the second you see two heartbeats on the ultrasound.  Bringing home not one, but TWO new babies gives you permission to take shortcuts, especially in the early months. Here are some shortcuts that I took:

*Rinse (DON’T WASH!!) bottles and pump parts: put them in the refrigerator and reuse them throughout the day.  Wash them or throw them in the dishwasher at the end of the day (this is the bottle rack that we used). If my twins were sick, I did wash their bottles after each use, and I did wash and sanitize them often when they were preemies.

*Prop the bottles:  We used the Twin Z Pillow, put the babies on their sides and propped their bottles with burp clothes.  If you don’t have the twin z pillow, and your babies are bottle-fed, you can use two boppies or place the babies in bouncers. Some moms are very judgy about propping bottles, but when you have twins, it’s all about survival. I also had the

You can read more about how to bottle prop <— here.

*Hands-free pumping bra:  I frequently used a hands-free pumping bra (I love this one because it is adjustable from  XS-L) and pumped while the babies were eating, propped on their Twin Z Pillow, of course. If you’re an exclusively pumping twin mama (I was!) you’re going to be spending a lot of time with your breast pump. It’s much easier if you can free up your hands.

*Prepare for feedings in advance:  For us, this included preparing lunch for our two-year-old the night before and also, since we were bottle feeding pumped breast milk, getting bottles ready early.

I know moms who made pitchers of formula in the morning (apparently a blender eliminates the chunks). Other families premade the actual bottles. 

Figure out what works best for you.


For more tips on feeding:

Tips and Advice for Feeding Twins

Time Saving Hacks for Bottle-Feeding Twins


*Weekly baths: Yes, my children got baths weekly.  No judging!  Every mom of twins knows that bath time can be fun and cute. However, at the end of the day, I’m exhausted, and the thought of bathing my twins AND my toddler is just too much. Now they get baths twice a week (on a good week).

*Put everything in the same room, or at least the same floor:  I’d bring the kids downstairs to the playroom in the morning with changes of clothes, diapers, etc.  It might have been a big messy, but I didn’t care.

At night we would bring our bottle warmer and a cooler full of milk up to our bedroom so we didn’t have to go downstairs for the middle of the night feedings.

If it’s not dirty, keep it on: Sometimes the babies wear the same outfit for a full 48 hours.  If it has no visible stains, it stays on day and night.  This saves time getting them dressed AND creates less laundry.

4. Join a Parent of Multiples Tribe

Being a parent of multiples is something that you cannot possibly understand unless you are one yourself.  I am a member of the Columbus Mother’s of Twins Club, as well as many facebook groups for twin parents.

Sometimes you just need to vent about the lady at the bank who told you that she knows what it’s like to have twins because she has two kids 18 months apart (um, what?), or the guy who asked if your 3-year-old singleton and 1-year-old twins are triplets (seriously, this happened to me last week).

The fact that you even say the word singleton means that you need to have other twin parents in your life.

Aside from venting and sharing silly stories, having other twin parents to talk to is extremely helpful.

Looking for a double stroller recommendation? Post in the twin club facebook group!  Want to see if anyone has used one of those crazy twin baby wearers?

Ask the twin mommies!  Want to know if it’s normal for your twins to ignore each other or steal each other’stoys?

Nobody can answer you better than a fellow parent of multiples.  Find your tribe. They will encourage you and give you endless tips for newborn twins.

If you find a local twin mom club, you can even find items second hand, which I HIGHLY recommend. I purchased two twin breastfeeding pillows second hand that were barely used, as well as a double snap and go stroller. Many baby items are use for such a short period of time and you don’t know if you’re really going to need them, so it’s wise to get things that are gently used. The only item I would not recommend buying second-hand is car seats. Since you don’t know for sure if they’ve been in a car accident, it’s best to purchase those brand new.

How do you find your tribe, you ask?  Well, try google to see if there is a twin club in your city.  If that doesn’t work, search on facebook for groups for parents of multiples.  If all else fails, send me an email, and I’ll add you to some groups!

Related –> Twin Mom Life Can Be Lonely

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5. Prioritize Household Duties

I hate hearing that I need to just let things go, even though it’s true.

How do you decide what to let go of?  Make a list of everything that you want to get done that isn’t an absolute necessity.

Feeding the babes = necessity.

Dusting your baseboards = not a necessity.

Diaper changes = necessity.

Organizing your changing station = not a necessity.

My list came down to keeping my house clean and preparing healthy meals for my family.

I hated the thought of letting my house go, BUT I hated the thought even more of feeding my family processed food and take out for a year.

Decide what bothers you the least to let go of, and remind yourself that it’s not forever.

You might decide that older children’s after school activities take priority over homecooked meals.

That’s fine!  Just make your decision, and own it.

Once I decided that I was no longer going to dust and vacuum weekly, I felt a lot less stressed.

You can eventually get back to doing everything you want to do, but while you’re adjusting to newborn twins, it is wise to cut some things out.

Here’s my 10-minute cleaning schedule if you’re feeling really optimistic…

6. Pay Someone to Help

Now is not the time to put on your superhero cape and try to do it all.

I’m sure you CAN do it all, but at what cost?

If we had the extra funds, you better believe we would have hired a housekeeper, a chef, and a nanny.

Trouble breastfeeding your newborn twins? Get a lactation consultant out, ASAP.

Do your twins only settle in the one swing you have? For crying out loud, buy another one.

Do your little angels want you to hold them 24/7?  Splurge and buy the TwinGo Baby Carrier so that you can wear them at the same time.

Pay to have your groceries delivered, sign up for Amazon prime, hire a house cleaner, pay for some child care to help with your little baby twins, hire a night nurse, or anything else you may think is silly.

If you’re currently pregnant with twins, you might want to start tucking away a little bit into your savings account because having two new babies is going to be a financial strain that you weren’t expecting. It’s totally manageable and worth it (especially once you see the amazing best friend bond they develop!) but in the early days you will have a lot of extra expenses that you wouldn’t have with just one baby.

Do you have twins?  What are some ways that you survived life with newborn twins?  Pregnant with twins?  What are some of your biggest fears?  Drop your thoughts and questions in the comments!

Head over and follow me on Instagram for lots of twin cuteness!

other helpful posts

Expecting Twins? How to Surviving a Twin Pregnancy

Dear New Twin Mom… I See You

The Ultimate Guide to Your Twin Registry

Unique Twin Milestones During the First Year

How To Get Your Twins To Sleep Through the Night

“Your Hands Are Full” and Other Phrases Twin Moms Hear

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AML

Saturday 2nd of January 2021

This is the absolute best article I have ever read on twin momming thank you so much for all the practicle advice!

Caitlin

Monday 4th of January 2021

I am so glad that it was helpful!! Thank you so much!

Bekah

Sunday 5th of April 2020

These tips are very helpful! We are expecting twins, and we have a toddler so I'm looking for all the advice! ?

Nicola

Thursday 6th of February 2020

Thankyou for your advice! Great words of wisdom! My twins are 6 weeks old now, born at 35 weeks and I’m following a very similar routine to what you did. I use a book called “save our sleep” by Tizzie Hall and it’s a complete life saver. I used it for my now 3.5 year old so I know it works! Routine isn’t just for the babies, it’s also for me and my sanity. I need to know what’s happening when so I can at least have a little time to myself or get jobs done (like apply for babies passports) while they sleep. I have a housekeeper who lives with us and I literally couldn’t live without her. We live in Dubai, everyone has a maid here so if you don’t, it’s deemed weird! My 3 year old loves her and she treats her as if she was her own child. If anything, it gives my husband and I so much more time and freedom compared to if we didn’t have the maid. At first I felt ashamed and embarrassed for having help (I’m from the UK and no one has maids there unless you’re royal!!) but now I feel very blessed and lucky to have found someone who is as wonderful as Mary Poppins! We split the night shift in half so she does a feed at 10pm and I wait for the babies to wake up around 3am to do the next feed. One twin is waking up at 7am but the other is waking around 5.30am so I’m using a pacifier to stretch him out til 7am when we feed them both at the same time. I’m also using the twinZ pillow and prop the bottles and highly recommend this method to other twin mums. Can’t wait til they sleep through, I reckon it’ll be another 10 weeks yet! Thankyou for your advice, it’s great to know that other twin mums are doing what I’m doing too. Sometimes we all need a little reassurance!

Caitlin

Thursday 6th of February 2020

Um, so jealous that you have a maid and that it's part of the lifestyle there! That's amazing! I bet it did feel weird at first though haha. There is no shame in having help!! And yes routine and structure is sooooo helpful for me!!

Lori

Sunday 12th of January 2020

I’m pregnant with twins due July 3rd and I’m so nervous. I love your tips and will definitely be using them. Thank you so much ❤️

Caitlin

Thursday 23rd of January 2020

Lori, thank you so much! Congratulations on your twin pregnancy! You are in for the adventure of a lifetime!

Twin Pickle

Friday 6th of October 2017

Fantastic tips! We put so much pressure on ourselves to have everything perfect in those newborn days and it's important to know where we can take a load off! You're rockin it mamas!