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How to Take Care of Twins Alone: Managing Twins by Yourself

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When I was pregnant with twins and panicking researching how I was going to take care of twins alone, there was one thing that I found very irritating.

Almost every article I read from other twin moms talked about having help for the first year.

Night nannies. Grandparents coming over daily. House cleaners. Mothers helpers.

What the what?

Not that there is ANYTHING wrong with having help. If you have the financial means to hire help or family that’s willing to pitch in for days on end, that is fantastic.

But if you’re like me and don’t? I want you to know that it’s going to be OK taking care of twins alone. I got through it and so will you.

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I’m not going to sugar coat things and act like it will be easy.

It will be really, REALLY freaking hard.

But there are a few things you need to know that will make things a bit more manageable. Here we go!

Know That It’s OK If They Cry

No, I am not telling you to do cry it out with newborns.

I’m just saying that sometimes babies cry for no reason. Sometimes they cry and you can’t figure out the reason. Sometimes they cry because they’re overtired and need to be held.

You know what? As a twin mom, sometimes you literally cannot comfort both of your babies at the same time.

You do your best, but sometimes that isn’t enough. Sometimes they will both cry, at the same time and you will have to choose one to comfort.

Sometimes they will both cry and you’ll be busy making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich for your two-year-old, because, you know, he wants lunch.

Listening to babies cry is awful. As a mom, it will go right through you.

Both of my girls had moments when they were crying and I simply could not get to both of them. They are now 3 and completely happy and healthy.

How to Take Care of Twins Alone

Wake Them Up At the Same Time

The key to staying sane with newborn twins is getting them on the same schedule. It’s not as hard as it sounds.

If you want them to sleep at the same time, you have to wake them up at the same time.

Anchor your morning wake up times and wake them up at the same time every day.

You can read more about schedules and newborn twins through the following links:

Newborn Twins Schedule

Tips for Keeping Your Newborn Twins on a Schedule

How I Got My Twins to Stay on a Schedule

Figure Out How You’re Going to Feed Them

Practice feeding them by yourself while you are in the hospital and before your husband goes back to work. Figure out what is going to work for you.

My goal was to tandem breastfeed and because my girls were 8-weeks premature, that didn’t work out for us.

They didn’t have the strength to breastfeed even one at a time. I thought about coming back to breastfeeding when they were 3 or 4 months old, but by that point, we had a great routine in place and they were sleeping through the night, so I didn’t want to change anything.

Here are some ways you can feed them:

  • Tandem breastfeed
  • Breastfeed them right after each other
  • Breastfeed one while giving the other a bottle on the couch
  • Bottle feed them both in the TwinZ pillow or two bouncy chairs (this is the route we went and I usually pumped with a hands-free pumping bra while they were taking a bottle).

Here is more help on the topic of feeding:

The Logistics of Double Nursing Twins

Time Saving Hacks for Bottle Feeding Twins

Hands-Free Bottle Props for Twins

Tips and Advice for Feeding Twins


Do whatever you can to simplify. If this means more screen time and fewer activities for older children, that is fine. It’s just a season.

If it means paper plates or more takeout, so be it.

It could mean disposable diapers even though you really wanted to try cloth.

This might mean simplifying Christmas decorations or not sending Christmas cards or skipping Birthday parties or the family vacation.

Realistically evaluate your life and decide what you can simplify. Just remind yourself that it is only a season. You can add these things back into your life once you are out of survival mode!

Accept Help

I know that this is about how to take care of twins alone, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t accept help.

Truthfully, this was hard for me. I’ve always been very independent and, *cough* possibly a little stubborn.

I like to think I can do things on my own.

There were times I ventured out to the grocery store, by myself, with my two-year-old and newborn twins, just to prove that I could do it.

Just because you can do it doesn’t mean that you should. I could have waited until my husband got home from work.

But, I don’t like feeling like I can’t live my life and take care of my own children by myself! I don’t like asking for help.

If someone offers, accept the help. Accept the meals and people helping with older children, if you have them.

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Research How You’re Going to Get Them to Sleep

It is incredibly difficult to function on little sleep.

It is imperative for everyone’s sanity that you work on getting them to sleep. It might take a while and a lot of work, but it is so worth it.

We followed the method from the book On Becoming Babywise and I highly recommend it.

Not only did it help us establish a schedule, but we never had to do any sort of intense sleep training or cry it out.

More advice for sleep:

How We Got Our Twins to Sleep Through the Night

7 Ways to Establish Good Sleep Habits From Birth (for new moms!)

1 Tip to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night

5 Popular Sleep Training Methods Explained

Prepare Things in Advance

When my girls were newborns, I would prep everything and anything I possibly could.

I got them up to feed them an hour before Theo, who was 2, got up.

They would be back down for a nap so while Theo was eating breakfast, I would pump and get his lunch made.

And finally, mamas, remember that it’s just a season. You got this!

P.S. Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram for all sorts of twin cuteness!

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Friday 11th of February 2022

What a valuable article. With twin grand girls now three months old, I look back on those first eight weeks and thank God for keeping that household in His arms. I watched my daughter struggle through probably the most difficult and challenging season of her life. Everything you said is spot on. I hope twin moms will find your truth and encouragement. Thanks for being so honest about the challenges and rewards.


Saturday 30th of April 2022

Thank you so much for the sweet comment!


Tuesday 10th of March 2020

I’m happy to hear someone did it alone with a toddler and twins. I have a two year old and am expecting my twins to come sometime in June. We don’t live that close to family (2-3 hours away). And can’t do a nanny (maybe a cleaning service once a month after the babies get here). So many articles only talk about taking care of the babies but not a lot talk about having another child to take care of as well!

We’re against sleep training and crying it out so I’m going to look into that book you suggested! Happy to know you did it and are alive and well ha! Thanks for your post!

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