Dear New Twin Mom,
I see you staring incredulously at the two tiny people that you created… and I know.
I know the gut-wrenching, earth-shattering, overwhelming amount of joy and gratitude you are feeling right now.
I see you in the checkout line at Target, gently rocking your double stroller back and forth and glancing anxiously about… and I know.
I know the amount of time you took to get your babies out of the house.
I know you timed it precariously so you can be home in time to feed them.
You feel as if you just climbed a mountain and ran a marathon because you managed to get both babies out of the house by yourself.
I see you in the middle of the night, feeding those babies so they grow big and strong… and I know.
I know what it’s like to feed two babies every three hours, round the clock. It takes so long that by the time you’re done, there are only 45 minutes until you have to start it all over again.
I see you with the bags under your eyes, cold coffee, untouched breakfast… and I know.
I know what it’s like to feel delirious and physically ill from lack of sleep.
I see you smile as your babies notice each other the first time… and I know.
I know what it’s like to love two little people and to watch and wait for the day they notice and start to love each other.
I see you flipping through your twin parenting books… and I know.
I know what it’s like to have no clue what things are supposed to be different with twins. Should they share a crib? Can they share bottles?
I see you with your unwashed hair, 3-day-old leggings, and spit-up covered shirt… and I know.
I know you feel like a shell of yourself and would love for even an hour to yourself.
I see you crying with your babies… and I know.
I know the feeling of despair because you can’t comfort both of your babies at the same time. I know what it’s like to have to decide which baby is crying harder and gets to be held while the other goes in the swing.
I see your overflowing laundry baskets… I know.
It’s truly mind-boggling how much laundry two tiny little humans can create. We’re going on two years and I have yet to have a day where I am completely ‘caught up’ on laundry.
I see you looking around at the chaos that is your life… I know. I know how guilty you feel that you can’t keep up with everything.
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I know the joy.
I know the exhaustion.
I know the struggle.
I didn’t write this article today to tell you how to get through this. (Although I’ve done that here.) I just wanted to tell you today that you are enough.
You are doing everything perfectly right,
even when especially when it doesn’t feel like it.
You may feel like you are alone, but you are not. Being a mom of twins is a challenge BUT many twin moms have come before you, and they have survived… myself included. I am here for you! The main reason I started a twin mom blog was to support and connect with other twin mamas.
Being a twin mom is hard, but you’ve got this. Before you know it, a few months will have passed… and then you will be celebrating the first year as parents of multiples, and soon your newborn twins will be full-blown kids.
Dear new twin mom… I see you… and I know.
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Friday 23rd of July 2021
Thank you for this.
Its 03h07 in South Africa and I have just completed a feed.
Been busy since 01h00 and have my alarm set to go off in 50minutes again. My twin boys are now 5 weeks old and I know I am truly blessed but this journey has been so far from easy.
I have a daughter under the age of 2 and since her brothers came I feel so much guilt.
This post made me cry but gave me some reassurance at the same time.
Tuesday 25th of February 2020
This is beautiful, thank you! Everything is right on point, i have 5 month old twins (boy/girl) and a two year old girl and there’s days when i don’t know how I’ve survived this long.
Monday 9th of September 2019
I'm a Mom of 3 month twin girls and a son who just turned 3. Every blog you post hits home. Thank you for this letter. Only a twin mom gets it, and it's good to hear we're not crazy, it's just life with twins...
Tuesday 30th of July 2019
I loved this because everything you said is true, I have almost 4 year old twin girls and I also have 1 month old twin girls. So to read this as I'm going through twin mom again is very helpful and made me cry because I'm going through all this again but with 2 sets of twins
Friday 26th of July 2019
I enjoyed reading this. Currently 19 weeks pregnant with mono mono twin girls. The journey just now is a challenge and I guess the next challenge will be having them here physically but I can’t wait to meet them. Thank you for your story.
Sunday 16th of February 2020
You manage to list every single thing, every though, feeling just everything. Thank you I needed that thank you.